Things aren’t always as they seem on social media. It can be easy to look at all the pretty photos and wonderful events and exciting places people are going and lose sight of the reality behind the photos.
We don’t know if that dress is 15 years old, or if those earrings are borrowed, or maybe that vacation was done a shoestring budget. We just see the photos and sometimes experience a sense of inadequacy.
Why doesn’t my life look like that? How come I never go anywhere cool? I wish I could have been there. The list goes on and on.
I’ve done it and perhaps you have too.
Last week I went to an event that, as my husband likes to say, “Looked good on paper.” It was a red carpet premiere of a movie in the Los Angeles area. I was so excited to be invited by my friend, Catherine and packed a bag to head to her house a few hours from me.
In my mind, the premiere would be at a fancy Hollywood theater, but in reality, it was at a funky old theater in Pasadena. Which was fine, it just didn’t match my expectations of the event.
We had a wonderful evening, but it honestly felt a little funny being so dressed up walking from the theater to a restaurant six blocks away for the “after-party”. I had a wonderful time chatting with several women at the party and the food was good, although overpriced.
The next day I shared a photo of the two of us in front of the step and repeat for the premiere. It looked so “Hollywood” and I tagged the theater we were in. I started seeing other photos of the event but noticed something different. Many were tagging their location as Hollywood.
Makes it sound cooler, doesn’t it?
Look, I’m not judging anyone here, I just want to say I hope you don’t look at what happens online and experience FOMO or inadequacy or compare yourself in any way to what you see.
It’s not “real”. It is just a snapshot in time framed to look a certain way. It is natural for us to want to put our best self out there. Just know that we are all getting up in the mornings and sitting on the toilet just like everyone else.
Enjoy the photos, check out the scenery, click like and then scroll to the next one and know you didn’t miss out. Your life is every bit as important and wonderful and amazing even without a step and repeat.
What is a Step and Repeat? It’s that cool backdrop you see behind the movie stars as they are heading into an event. There is usually a repeat of the event name printed on it and the idea is to step in front of it for photos to be taken. Step and Repeat!
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