Introspective Adventurer

Aging on my terms - Daily musings in 500 words or so

The trade-off

I hate that I don’t have a dishwasher. We live in a house that’s about 120 years old. It’s a Victorian that got converted into apartments years ago. Our place was the main living area of the house. There’s a big living room with large pocket doors to the now kitchen.

The kitchen was not the original and has this one tiny countertop with one sink in it. That’s it. I had to buy an island so I would have a surface to prepare food on. Oh, and the bathroom…it’s right next to that one sink.

I hate not having a dishwasher! The trade-off for living in Paradise

the sink is usually filled with dirty dishes 🙁

The bathroom is about the size of a closet, and it has very thin walls and one window, which faces the back steps. There is NO privacy.

We trade having a small bathroom for living in paradise

yes, that is the bathroom right next to the kitchen/dining table!


another trade-off for living in paradise - tiny bathroom with no privacy!

You can wave to anyone walking out the back door while sitting on the toilet!

There isn’t a washer and dryer either. I tried to remedy that by getting a portable washer and electric dryer. The washing machine manufacturer must have thought they needed to make up for its size by making it mighty. The agitator is so strong it rips up our clothes.

And I don’t know what I was thinking getting a dryer that runs off 110. ‘Slightly warm’ is its highest setting.

These don't really work as well as we had hoped. Part of the trade-off for living in a small apartment in paradise

Portable washer and dryer that don’t really work

So I can fall into complaining about these things sometimes…my husband would tell you, a lot of times. I know they are modern conveniences and really should be considered luxuries, but it’s hard to go back once you’ve had them.

And then I remember why I put up with these things….

Santa Barbara is a beautiful city. That’s such a simple statement to describe where we live. It’s said to be the American Mediterranean. The weather is just about perfect. Situated on a south-facing coastline, we enjoy 72 degrees most days.

We can walk out our door and go to dinner, have drinks, do some shopping or end up at the beach, which is only a mile and a half away.

The weather in Santa Barbara is so wonderful. Thanksgiving at the beach

Living just over a mile from the beach in paradise

The city is filled with the most amazing trees. I have a love for trees and this place has more varieties than any other city I’ve ever been to.

The trees of Santa Barbara

Iconic trees at the beach


This fig tree is about 100 years old

100 year old Fig Tree

Jacaranda tress of Santa Barbara

When the Jacaranda Trees are in bloom, our town glows purple

If you don’t want to go to the beach, there are some great hikes up the mountains on the other side of our town. Because of being on a south facing coastline, we get sunrises and sunsets that light up the mountains in gold and pinks.

The hills above Santa Barbara at sunset

I could go on and on about this town. And I’m not the only one who has discovered it. Because of its popularity, the vacancy rate for rentals is less than one half of a percent. So…. rents are high.

That is the trade off for having no dishwasher, washer and dryer and a tiny bathroom that offers no privacy. So my question for you today is,

Do you have a trade off? Are you living where you want to live, or did you trade that for something else? What’s your trade off?


  1. Kaitlyn Napier

    2017-10-23 at 06:23

    This looks and sounds like such a beautiful city!

  2. You DO live in a location I’d call paradise! Haha that photo of you on the toilet 😉 Yes, I have a trade off here. I can walk down to the water in under 10 minutes from my house but I live in one of Canada’s most expensive cities to live in. I’ll think of your post the next time I start to complain about it!

  3. Looks like you made the right choice. We have chosen to live modestly in the suburbs, a long commute to hubby’s work, to be able to live on one income and keep me home with the children. We also drive used cars, hence no car payments. Buy clothing for the entire family from thrift stores. Do not eat out. Watch out for new items at garage sales for gifts.

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2017-10-23 at 15:49

      I think that’s an excellent trade-off Trudy. The time you have when your children are home goes by all too quickly. I was lucky, like you to get to stay home with my sons. The best trade off ever.

  4. I may take your trade off for the area you live in. My trade off is just a tiny house in a bad neighborhood so that I can put my daughter through private school.

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2017-10-23 at 18:17

      That is an excellent trade off! I would have done the same. It will be worth it in the end.

  5. mommyhon333

    2017-10-23 at 17:34

    Lovely photos and not a bad trade-off. I wouldn’t mind washing dishes for just PC and myself. But if the girls were still home, we would have to figure out something else!

    My trade-off? Hmmm, I guess living quite a distance from any family in order to have a very affordable, lovely home and secure jobs. We visit family often but sometimes it would be nice to just drop by for lunch.

  6. Santa Barbara is beautiful, so that’s a worthwhile trade-off. I live in an expensive rented apartment in LA, so I can walk to work. And being able to walk to work in LA is pure luxury. The stress-free commute is well worth it!

  7. Oh, Loretta, you truly do live in Paradise! You had me at 72 degrees! Not sure why I have always made Michigan my home, but I tend to be a rut maker and I struggle with change and the unknown. Nothing beats Michigan summers but as you may recall, Winters without sunshine can be so depressing. My trade off has been that I also was able to stay home and raise my children and 7 years ago we were finally able to purchase our 4500 sq. ft. dream home! So whenever you decide that you miss Michigan winters, let’s swap homes for a few weeks (first I have to figure out how I am going to get to CA when I don’t fly-it would be a long road trip!)

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2017-10-24 at 09:39

      Mary that’s a wonderful trade-off. When I was in Michigan last fall, I marveled at all of the homes on big pieces of land…with big shops. I miss those things, truly. My sister’s home sits on some beautiful acreage.

      Wouldn’t that be fun to swap homes for a few weeks!! I’ve driven to and from the west coast to Michigan more than a few times! Just not in the winter.

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