This or That? How do you prioritize and put yourself first?

Earlier this week I wrote about making the choice between having things or having experiences. It is easy for me to make those decisions, because I lean towards experiences now.

But not every decision is that easy for me. I am in an almost constant battle with myself about whether I should do this or that. I’m not sure why that is, but it gets so bad at times it stifles any decision, and I end up wasting time doing nothing.

Does that ever happen to you?

My list today is so long, I don’t know where to start. I’ve tried writing everything down on paper and then prioritizing, but the problem with that is, I end up putting myself last.

How do you put yourself at the top of the list?

For instance, one of the things on my “to do” list is to get my exercise in. I have lost 7 pounds since Jan 1st and I’m at a weight that I’ve been many times. It’s a weight my body has decided it wants to stay at, and it’s going to take a lot of effort on my part to break through it and change my “set point”.

I’m not sure how to change my list and move my priorities around. There are “have to’s” on that list and commitments that take precedence. You know what I’m talking about; you have priorities that make their way to the head of your list.

just another meme to remind us to put ourselves first

So how do you do it? How do you put yourself first?

How do you juggle the long list of things that need to be done, and find time to take care of yourself? It is so easy to say, “I’m going to put myself first!” but another to actually do it.

easy to read a meme, harder to actually do it

A couple of people asked me how I made the decision of choosing experiences over things, and I answered that I could actually pinpoint a moment in my life where it became crystal clear which choice was right for me.

It was a life changing moment for me, and yes, I will be writing about it later. But in a nutshell, I realized that things were not making me happy.

So I’m looking for another moment that will show me that putting myself at the top of the list is not only the right choice, but also the easy one to make. But I’d like to do that before I get hit with a brick upside my head, so to speak.

I guess what I’m asking for is help.

Have you made “you” a priority? If so, how did you do it? And if it was as easy as reading another meme, I’d already be there. Give me your best solid advice.

Reader Comments

  1. Cindy Scurry

    The struggle is real. I find exercise is sadly at the bottom of the list. I’ve got to change that! I too am trying to break through a weight “set point” and it’s really challenging. I’ve got my diet front and center each day now, it’s just the exercise part that I tend to forego. I know I need it too! I’m trying to set weekly goals for exercise. Trying…. Gotta keep trying!

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      I am finding the ONLY way to break through this set point is to exercise, daily. Let’s do this Cindy. It’s our year to make it happen and we can do this, together!

  2. Leslie Clingan

    Like Cindy said, we keep trying!! And I don’t put myself first often but there are moments each day when it happens. When I refuse to answer yet another phone call, or when I take 10 minutes to jog on the treadmill or spend 30 minutes doing something crafty I want to do. It helps me to make a list of what I want to do each day and then mark things off as I accomplish them. Sadly, the me-time things don’t always happen. But making a list helps me to be aware that they didn’t and to do better the next day!

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      I think you are right…keep trying. I like the list idea, and will go back to that. Maybe not worrying about what order I put things in, but rather just mark off whats done. Good idea.

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