Let me start this post by telling you that I haven’t been into a public building or near another person, besides my husband, in ten days. I started my own “shelter in place” before our governor issued the statement for all Californians due to the coronavirus pandemic.
I thought it was important to self-isolate and still do, but I’m also grappling with a few things. In one moment I am 100% on board with all American’s staying home and I even found myself judging others who weren’t. But I am also wondering at what cost?
Last Thursday my husband and I took a motorcycle ride to celebrate our anniversary. We knew we couldn’t go out to dinner or to a movie so we thought a ride would be a good way to get out.
As we rode through downtown Ventura I noticed a few thrift stores open and a salon or two. Shame on them, I thought. And of course, I even shared that on social media. Shame on them.
We all need to be doing our part!
This last weekend, news and social media were reporting flocks of people going to beaches and to parks and they were publicly shamed for going out in public during this coronavirus crisis. People were posting things just like I did. Shame on them.
As a person who happens to live at the beach, my first thought was; Yeah, but it is okay to go to the beach. Our governor even said to go outside, walk in nature, walk your dog. What is wrong with walking on the beach?
I asked several people and got the same reply I shared earlier. We all need to be doing our part! What part of stay home are you not getting? But now I am wondering where the line is?
I realize the line is in a different place for all of us.
So now, I can’t sleep because my brain is on overload trying to figure out what is the best tactic to combat this coronavirus pandemic. Do we hand our economy a blow to flatten the curve and spread out the number of cases to give our medical community a fighting chance?
Of course, I am going to say, “Hell yes we do!”
But then I’m not in the service industry. I am not losing my business or even our income. It is easy for me to shout a hell yes when that line isn’t affecting me. It is when this comes to our own door that the line changes. And I don’t mean the virus, I mean the impact it will have on each of us personally.
What if you were told as of midnight tonight you can’t go outside at all?
You won’t be able to run to the store to grab a few more things. The bank is closed so you won’t be able to go get cash.
What if you were told you can no longer walk your dog? Or that your job would end today and there won’t be any money handed to you to help pay your bills?
It was so easy for me to judge the salon owner or thrift shops because I didn’t need those things. But the moment anyone suggested taking away my ability to go walk on the beach, I felt completely different.
I don’t know what the answer is and I can’t see how this is going to play out. But I do know this pandemic is going to have a profound lasting effect on all of us. Our mental health will suffer if we do not find a way to come together and see that the line is different for all of us.
Compassion and understanding of what other people are going through are essential. I know I am guilty of judging. Shame on me.