Deep Thoughts

Yesterday I posted this photo on my Instagram page and asked a couple of questions:

Is it okay to have facial hair as a women?

Is it okay to have peach fuzz (facial hair)? I don’t shave mine off, do you? Thoughts?

I got a lot of responses.

The answers ranged from not caring at all, to caring deeply about this topic. And, yeah I know this isn’t the deepest of pondering’s, but it did bring about important personal views and opinions from most.

And that’s what I found interesting.

I’ve recently joined a Facebook group of women my age, and we’ve been busy learning about and supporting each other. It’s been fun and educational as well. We are a diverse group interested in many varied aspects of midlife, aging, beauty, health, home, and more.

Everyone is supportive and positive, but I’ve already noticed a vast difference in what’s important to each of us. Some are passionate about exercise and health, others about beauty and aging, some are coaches and teachers, a few are dedicated to style and fashion, and a few to personal growth.

The reason I’m bringing this up is I am finding the majority of the women my age are wise, opinionated women, who also respect other wise, opinionated women.

I’m learning just how individual we all are, even as we are going through some of the same challenges in life. I honestly don’t know that I understood that in my younger years. For me, I used to believe I had to “take a side” and then defend my side.

But there are many sides, all of which are right.

Maybe one of the perks of aging is learning that it’s okay to be ourselves. But more importantly, it’s okay for others to be different than us.

Even if it’s just over facial hair.


Reader Comments

  1. janebeckenham

    I love this post. I’m one of those women trying to find out what’s next in life, i think i have found it, then i doubt, and change my mind, and start all over again, it’s very confusing, and i might even admit a little frightening. Having just turned 60, i want the next years to be special, to be about… home/family, me. I’ve always thought i had to do SOMETHING, or be SOMETHING. but i’m wondering if that is true. Perhaps we just need to learn to BE.


    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      I totally understand what you are saying Jane. It is time to just be. I think as women, we tend to think we have to always be doing something, especially for others, and it takes a while to figure out what we want to do for ourselves. Thank you for reading. I hope my writing will help you as much as it does me.

  2. Christy B

    OK I love this post! Most issues aren’t black and white (ironic that your photo WAS though hehe). Instead, there are different ways of looking at them, whether it’s about facial hair or otherwise. You’re going onto the Friday roundup post again with this one 😀

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      Thank you Sue, for reading and sharing your thoughts too! We are all different with different backgrounds and points of view, and being supportive (and tolerant) is vital.

  3. Martine Metaxas

    I loved this post and that you actually verbalized this issue about having and speaking our opinion from a place of strength.

    We may be in the same group… recently we were asked what we thought of how a certain actress looked on the awards night. Fair enough question which can go either way. No I didn’t like it, or Yes, I loved it, and a few things in between.

    There then started a whole thread about ladies being negative, and threats of removing them. Well when you ask my opinion, I want to feel I can offer it, as long as it is respectful, and I’m not being bitchy.

    It’s not about being judgmental either. You asked my opinion, and I gave it. What is negative about that. Perhaps the question needed re-framing to “who likes this look?” and that way only those that like it can offer their opinion.

    I agree wholeheartedly with you Loretta on how we’ve spent too many years of our lives, not standing up for ourselves for fear of judgement and criticism. And that’s without feeling we even had the permission to use our voices and be seen and heard.

    Love your writing and your work.

    Thank you for the space to comment and offer an opinion too.

    Martine Metaxas, Holistic Life Coach helping women at that certain age and beyond – 50’s and beyond.
    Also fast approaching the countdown to 60 – 2 & 1/2 years to go and enjoying every minute of it!!

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      Thank you Martine, for reading and sharing your thoughts. I do believe we should be allowed to share our opinions, and that we should be respectful about it as well. The problem with online comments is, some people say things they wouldn’t normally in person. And yes, I did see that post. Most women were opinionated, but respectful. Some were not.

      Thank you for the kind words about my writing and work. When I started this blog, I had no idea so much would come out. I’m glad it is though.

      Glad you are enjoying your countdown to 60 also!!

  4. Shelly

    “The reason I’m bringing this up is I am finding the majority of the women my age are wise, opinionated women, who also respect other wise, opinionated women.”

    I appreciate this aspect of my life, I love wise opinionated women.

  5. Fantabulous40s

    Hi. I really liked this post because I’ve always hated my facial hair. I’ve always waxed or threaded my eyebrows and my upper lip. That peach fuzz on the side of my face tho was an issue I even went to an aesthetician about because having dark hair it looks like more than peach fuzz. I wanted to get it lásered off. I don’t get it done because I’m dark skin and didn’t want to take the risk of hyperpigmentation. So I found an alternative. Dermaflash. I will never worry about it again.

    As for your FB group. I’m glad that you were able to find a group where people can disagree and be “ok.” It’s part of maturity I believe. Sometimes I’m a little too emotional and therefore immature. I don’t think I’m ready for that type of group. Lol

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