Better After 50?

Why can’t we all just get along?

I wouldn’t call myself a peacemaker, really. I’d even go so far as to say I’m more of an antagonist. But I find myself wondering why we can’t seem to get along with each other these days.

I’ve been following an online magazine called Better After 50 for a while now, (since they published a couple of my posts). I like the title, believing that we are “better after 50”.

They post all kinds of articles ranging from fashion to fitness, family, home, travel and relationships. One of the writers for the magazine packed it all up and decided to sail the world with her partner. Pretty cool, huh?

She continues to contribute and shares her experience from the sea.

Last week she wrote a piece about being embarrassed for our country after reading about the “shithole” scandal. They were pulling into port at Dominica when she heard the news, and stated that it was the first time in her life she was embarrassed by our government.

It was an interesting read and thought-provoking, considering they were on a poor, hurricane ravaged island, but what really struck me were the comments about the post.

I completely understand that some people would agree with her, and others wouldn’t, but I am still surprised and saddened by the vitriol that people spew at each other.

There were comments stating they hated the article and that she had taken her good fortune to travel to another country and twisted it, and because of it would unsubscribe from the magazine. To which responses were in the vein of “don’t let the door hit you on the ass on the way out!”

How has this become the norm? Why is it so terrible for us to have different opinions? Have we become a nation of “teamists”? Where did this great divide come from?

I found myself getting caught up in it too, and had to check myself. Isn’t it easy to hide behind a keyboard pounding out a negative retort while driving your point home!?

But is it the right thing to do? Especially at our age?

A good friend taught me it’s okay to have different views and opinions on so many things, including politics. Sarah taught me how to show grace when coming up against polar opposites of my own beliefs.

Maybe it is as simple as that, and we will slowly start a movement of grace, and create one team. It’s time to show grace for each other, grace for our country, and most of all grace for ourselves.

Are you with me? Let’s be better after 50.

Cherry Blossom Festival 2017 in D.C.

Reader Comments

  1. Cindy Scurry

    Yes, I’m with you. My own sisters and I have differing political views but we still can get along – find common ground. I heard that it’s because “fake news” has been blamed when it is actually the facts. That some broadcast news channels are actually creating a different reality – spreading us further apart.

    Not sure, but something is making us more divided than ever!

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      Most of my family are on opposite sides when it comes to politics too. It can be taxing!

      You could be right about the fake news thing. I sure hope we find a way to come together as a country, as a world, as humans.

  2. littlemissw

    It’s so interesting that we struggle to accept that people see things differently from us, and that’s OK. My husband and I are polar opposites politically but I think it’s one of the great things about our marriage. Through each other we’ve grown as individuals, not because we agree but because we can see the other side of things.

    Interestingly, I was reading a family psychology book recently published in 1983 that talks about how we all have this sense of paranoia – an us and them mentality – in which we’re almost compelled to defend out own world view because it makes us feel superior and better about ourselves. Of course what has changed is our immediate ability to communicate our feelings and remain anonymous about it. I think that makes it easy to stay entrenched in our view, and so much harder to step out of our paranoia in a healthy way.

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      Great comment, Wendy! Thank you.

      Very interesting about that article from 83…I’m afraid our online access as magnified our paranoia!

  3. jodie filogomo

    Just think if we all did have the same views….how boring and short sided we would be. I consider it a blessing that we can all think differently. But that doesn’t mean we need to be mean spirited about it.

  4. Nikki Gwin

    I am with you. WHOLE heartedly! In fact, when the whole pre-election political scene hit FB I vowed that I would post NOTHING but good stuff. I do however, have to sometimes hide the political stuff, but that keeps me from wanting to jump in and retaliate.
    🙂 gwingal

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